http://mailchi.mp/udookonjo/the-power-of-resilience 23/10/17 THE POWER OF RESILIENCE. Lessons from Life and Business Setbacks.
Life happens. Things change. Disaster happens. Disruption comes. Disappointment. Bad news. Lays offs. Bankruptcy. Sickness. Loss of loved ones. Divorce. Separation. Business failure. Personal attacks by people who should know better. Economies fail. Recession happens. Forecasts go wrong. People lose everything. Problems sometimes persist longer than our seeming ability to cope. Other times, we seem to be building forever without any sign of progress or obvious rewards. People fail us. We fail ourselves. Wrong judgments. We fall. We fall flat. We fall hard. We fall steadily. We fall suddenly. We fall. And we fail. Or well so it appears… All humans will go through times of adversity, and in some cases incredibly challenging trials that will stretch us to the point…where ..you have to choose……well choose what? What are the options? How about RESILIENCE?
DO WE HAVE A CHOICE? The Resilience of Survivors.
I have to admit that to a large extent, I agree with Rabbi Evan Davis Evan Markus, in his writing on “It’s Raining, It’s Pouring – The Resilience of Noah” that “most survivors of anything would prefer not to need to put their resilience to the test, and surely as a species humanity would prefer not to face today’s global threats. But when challenge comes, sometimes resilience boils down to having no choice, then drawing strength from capacity to survive, look back and marvel that we made it.”
When you have a compelling vision of something you have to build, you don’t have a choice but to be resilient.
I have found that to be my own story and experience during times of extreme adversity of any kind, whether it be dealing with and surviving a health threat 11 years ago, to dealing with life’s numerous challenges, or protracted economic challenges that cause you to wonder about your whole business and existence. I’ve found that sometimes in life as in business, when it rains, it pours…all hell seems to be let loose. But you are not left without tools.
Here are a few tried and tested ways to build resilience when faced with any kind of adversity.
3 KEYS TO RESILIENCE.
1. CHOOSE THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE. Your interpretation of life determines how your life’s situation will ultimately shape up. It’s not what happens to us that determines how we turn out, but how we respond. Thomas Jefferson aptly said, “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” Maya Angelou also challenges our thinking about adversity with these words ” Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you…yet that someone survived. You can do anything you choose to do” . It may sound a bit harsh and stretch when you are in the middle of a financial, business, economic, health or life crisis, but these words have been borne out by research and my own life’s experiences. Firming up this same point, Stephen Covey famous for personal mastery wrote ” We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of Choice.” I agree.
2. CHOOSE ACTION. ” The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing big but in RISING every time we fall. Rising requires action. Sometimes the action required will be to “adjust your sail”. It was Elizabeth Edwards who said “She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails.” The art of resilience involves movement in the face of adversity. Weak, yet we move. Discouraged, yet we advance, broke, yet we step up and step out daily. Life rewards those who show up, irrespective of what’s going on around them.
These additional quotes summarise the importance of taking action in the midst of life’s most trying times. As we can see, each of them requires action on our part.
– If you are going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill.
* “No matter how much falls on us, we keep plowing ahead. That’s the only way to keep the roads clear.” Greg Kincaid
* “We will either find a way, or make one.” Anibal Barca
* “Rock bottom became the solid foundation in which I rebuilt my life.”
* Resilience is the ability to attack while running away. Wes Fessler.
* Choose in favour of diligent, dogged, never say never, never give up action. Udo Okonjo
* Fight. Fight. Fight. Oke Maduewesi.
1. CHOOSE TO STAY POSITIVE : A simple way to stay positive is to have mantras or QUOTES that help you put your current situation in context. Here are a few more quotes that you can frame or record on your phone to remind you that this too shall pass, but don’t simply endure the tough times, learn to seek the good in the tough times because they never last. – “However long the night, the dawn will break.” African Proverb – “Resilience isn’t a single skill. It’s a variety of skills and coping mechanisms. To bounce back from bumps in the road as well as failures, you should focus on emphasizing the positive.” Jean Chatzky. – If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces. Shane Koyczan – True champions emerge on the back of setbacks. Don’t waste your pain. Udo Okonjo
Finally, remember this, “Resilience is very different from being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But you keep going”
Helen Keller, a true survivor who thrived against all odds, summarises my topic so profoundly, “Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”
I honestly believe that every challenge in life carries within it an opportunity that is so powerful, it can change the course of your life for good – but only if you respond appropriately. The most inspiring success stories are those where people turned a massive pain or problem into an opportunity.
Our greatest glory, therefore as humans according to Confucius is not in ever failing, (or suffering setback,) but in RISING every time we fall.
RESILIENCE = RISING AGAINST ALL ODDS. Udo Okonjo c2017
Ps. Remember that R in O.C.T.O.B.E.R stands for RESILIENCE and as we approach the last quarter of the year, pressure tends to mount. But you’ve gotta build resilience this month to help you end the year strong and begin a new year even stronger. I admonish you not to give up or give in. Decide in favour of your highest dreams and vision. Remember to be thankful daily. Gratitude ignites the power of resilience. Practice it this month. Remind yourself how far you’ve come, and determine to go the distance come what may.
Ps. These principles apply to young, old, nations, individuals, businesses, charities, men, women…..
FAITH FOOD: “Let’s not get tired of doing what is good, for at the right time we will reap a harvest—if we do not give up or quit.” Galatians 6:9
***For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, But the wicked stumble in time of calamity. Psalm 24:16
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